In these early stages of raising a child, it’s frequently impossible to think about more than a few days out. Planning is silly because the work of parenting trumps most social obligations. It doesn’t take long after a child is born to begin thinking and acting on a much shorter time scale, like a week or something.
What I’ve found for myself as a consequence, however, is that my frame of reference is pretty limited these days. What’s going on the world these days? I don’t know. What’s going on in my house on this day? I mean, of course I’m current on all the awful things happening with American torture, our present civil rights crisis, and the other horrific things that dominate my Twitter feed. Other than that, I have trouble thinking broadly or deeply about any topic.
The upside is living more in the moment. Being wholly occupied with my daughter when we play together or she’s dancing around. I’m no super dad, so yes, I often squeeze in some internetting while Maddie plays, but generally, it’s easy for me to focus on her and what she’s doing right then and there without thinking about when to take her where or who to call about what. I guess that’s a fair trade.